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Once I was called a pathological liar by a very close friend. She said it in a very light-hearted manner, but that got me thinking whether it's true or not. I'm glad I was able to google what pathological means before the incident, so I didn't have to pretend I knew what she's talking about. Otherwise it could be really awkward. 

According to Dr. House, who I get all my wisdom from, everybody lies. I believe that to the core. And if you don't agree with him, you're lying. 

I am not a pathological liar, because I don't do it regularly, or I don't do it because it's in my nature, nor I find joy in lying. It's a word that has been misused time and time again for the sake of exaggeration. The retarded thing is most misused terms are usually mental or personality disorders. Kapag moody ka, bipolar ka na agad, pag mahilig ka mag salamin narcissistic ka na, pag mahilig ka maglinis, O.C. ka. Mas impactful kase.. lalo pa't ipopost mo sa FB. Nakaw dami likes, iba sa pandinig e.

Of course, like everyone else, I have lied so many times during my lifetime, and I have no intentions of stopping any time soon. If it could get people go straight to hell, I should probably be asking for forgiveness right this moment. Although I can't really say I'm lying to be honest. I am more inclined to make people believe what I wanted them to believe. More like persuading them to think this way rather than the other for my own benefit. Sometimes we lie because we want to achieve something that can't be achieved by being honest. 

Kasama na ng matinding actingan yan, sabay ng malaking tiwala sa sarili. Dapat willing ka din mag compromise para mapaniwala mo yung tao na biktima ka din sa sitwasyon, sa parehong paraang dapat maniwala ka din sa kasinungalingan mo. Dapat magsasacrifice ka ng kaunting katotohanan para believable parin. Yung pwede mong sabihing, "technically, I wasn't lying", yang mga ganyang linyahan. Kagaya ng tropa mong ang hilig mambabae, na sinasabi sayong "Wag na wag kang aamin kahit anong mangyari". Ang problema kasi dito, nangongolekta na nang ebidensya ang babae na kapanipaniwala naman talaga, minsan nga huli na sa akto nagsisinungaling padin. Thing is, siguro epektibo din naman to, lalo na pag sobrang tanga nung niloloko, yung walang self-worth. Pang pokopok ang utakan. Pero pag matalino ang shota mo, dun ka na sa taktik ko, yung babaliktarin mo yung sitwasyon.

You have to make the other person realize that it was her fault why the "lying" has to happen. This is the part where you have to act like the victim, you DO NOT lie to your teeth, show a bit of remorse. Look her in the eye, refrain from stuttering, if you do, look away and pause, breathe heavily, and pause, then look her in the eye again. Set an exhausting atmosphere, like you're really tired of explaining yourself 'coz it's pointless. Make sure you throw her a bone once in a while. You admit to at least two things she accuses you of, so that she'll feel some kind of vindication. Kasi yun naman talaga ang importante dun e, dapat walang magmukhang tanga. Compromise is key. Be on top of things, make sure you remember every bit of the lies and the truths 'coz they will definitely come up in your future fights conversations.


This doesn't just go out to relationships, when lying, it is important to understand when to back up a bit and when to be persistent. Because the worst part is when you actually believe you're fooling everyone when they already called your bluff a long time ago.

You'll end up being the fool in the end. Nonetheless, people will no longer believe in anything you say, no matter how much you tell them you've changed your ways. Trust when broken, will never be fixed. Doubt will always linger in the corner. I could go on and on with the cliches but I rather not. I just feel like It has to be said in this paragraph. You know, for extra impact and shit.

Ultimately, I think lying is an important part of what makes us human. It gives us the opportunity to keep a secret we never want anyone to know. It helps us protect someone we really care about, we're willing to lie for people who we love, even if we have to carry that burden for them. You lie to anyone. Your parents, your family, friends, coworkers, your boss, the police, sa mga tindera ng sari-sari store, sa mga kaklase mong nangungutang, o sa mga manghihingi lang ng yosi. Somehow we associate telling the truth to getting in trouble. And nobody wants trouble, reasonable people avoid complications, so we lie. At the end of the day, It is beneficial to everyone including yourself. for the time being... that is. 

Lying is complicated. So is telling the truth. Truth is not always the answer. I always thought of it as overrated. What you don't know won't hurt you, Ignorance is bliss... Words I don't necessarily live by, but I do understand their importance. In the same way I believe that the truth will set you free, I mean emotionally maybe, but it could also get you in jail most definitely. So timing is everything in this situation. Choose the most convenient time to tell a lie, or the truth for that matter. This is probably the foundation of white lies. Aah white lies, the best kind of lies. Because if you're an ethical person, or someone with a sense of empathy, you wouldn't really lie for fun, or just to hurt someone. You do it because you want to protect someone. To prevent further damage, or to take the blame for someone.

Ewan ko ba kung bakit ko naisipang gawing topic to. Siguro kakapanood ng PiliPinas Debate 2016. Kitang kita ko kasi kung pano mag sinungaling si Binay e. Yung mga mannerism niya. Hindi ako naiinis kasi nanloloko siya, kasi given naman na talagang dapat manloko para manalo. Naiinis lang ako kasi ang corny ng paraan niya para mangloko. Pakiramdam ko kasi napaka "corny" na nung panguuto niya sa mga tao. Yung paraan niya para kumuha ng simpatya galing sa mga mahihirap at mga timang na tao. Kasi gamit na gamit na dati ni Willie Revillame yun e, tingnan mo, ang ending, si Joey De Leon na "bully" ang nanalo. Yung naghahanap ng kakampi, ayoko talaga sa mga ganon. Ang weak. Kasi ang dali naman kumuha ng simpatya e, umiyak ka lang sa publiko, konting bola, purihin ang mga matatanda, o mga bata, o ipagyabang ang iilang nagawang mabuti. Ang masakit pa, me mga nagpapadala talaga sa "pity party". Shit ayoko talaga ng "self-pity".

Ika nga ni Rihanna, kelangan mahalin ang paraan ng pagsisinungaling. It is an art. A skill. It has to be unique. Because again, lying is necessary, beneficial, a responsibility. Use it wisely. Try not to hurt a handful of people while you're at it.

Paki search mo na din kung ano yung pathological, baka kasi iba pakakaintindi ko. Taena popost na yan sa FB, nadagdagan na naman vocabulary niya. joke lang.